“So Hard” is a song by the British synth-pop duo Pet Shop Boys, released in September 1990 with “It Must Be Obvious” on the B-side as the lead single from their fourth studio album, Behaviour. Written by the Pet Shop Boys members, Chris Lowe and Neil Tennant, the song became a notable hit for the duo and showcased their signature blend of catchy melodies and introspective lyrics.
“So Hard” features a driving beat, layered synthesizers, and the distinctive voice of lead singer Neil Tennant. The song’s production is sleek and polished, typical of the Pet Shop Boys’ style, combining elements of dance-pop and electronic music. Lyrically, “So Hard” explores themes of infidelity and relationship struggles. The lyrics describe a tense relationship where both partners are unfaithful, but they continue to stay together despite the difficulties. The song captures the emotional complexity of maintaining a troubled relationship, with a mix of frustration, guilt, and longing.
“So Hard” was a commercial success, reaching No. 4 on the UK Singles Chart and reaching the top ten in many other European countries. It also performed well on the US Billboard Dance Club Songs chart, highlighting the Pet Shop Boys’ appeal in the dance music scene.
The song remains a fan favorite and is often praised for its clever lyrics and sophisticated production. “So Hard” is a classic example of the Pet Shop Boys’ ability to blend pop sensibilities with deeper, more complex themes.