“Harden My Heart” is a song by Quarterflash, released in September 1981 with “Don’t Be Lonely” on the B-side as the lead single from their self-titled debut album. Written by guitarist Marv Ross, itt became the band’s biggest hit, reaching No. 3 on the Billboard Hot 100 and No. 1 on Rock Top Tracks chart, and solidifying their place in early ’80s rock history.
The song is a powerful rock ballad with elements of new wave and soft rock, driven by a moody saxophone riff, which became its signature sound. Lead singer Rindy Ross delivers an emotionally charged vocal performance, capturing the song’s themes of resilience and moving on from heartbreak. The lyrics tell the story of someone who has been hurt in love but is now determined to protect themselves from further pain—”I’m gonna harden my heart, I’m gonna swallow my tears.”
“Harden My Heart” features a dramatic build-up, atmospheric synths, and a driving rhythm, creating a sound that blends rock edge with radio-friendly polish. The saxophone solo, played by Rindy Ross herself, adds a distinctive and haunting quality to the track, making it stand out from other rock songs of the era.
The song was originally recorded in 1980 by Quarterflash’s earlier incarnation, Seafood Mama, before being reworked and polished for major-label release. It quickly became a hit, helping the band’s debut album go platinum.
“Harden My Heart” remains a classic of ’80s rock, frequently played on classic rock and retro radio stations and included in soundtracks, TV shows, and nostalgic playlists. Its mix of melancholy lyrics, soaring vocals, and that unforgettable sax riff makes it one of the most memorable hits of the decade.